Mirroring Each Other’s Goodness, with Rev. Dr. Steven Koski.

Mirroring Each Other’s Goodness, with Rev. Dr. Steven Koski. Series: Spacious Christianity, Spacious Hearts A Spacious Christianity, First Presbyterian Church of Bend, Oregon. Scripture: Psalm 46, Ephesians 3, Romans 8.

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Keywords:

god, love, goodness, suicide, shame, life, spiritual path, earns, unbearable, pain, struggling, grasping, depression, worthy, darkness, darkest places, strangers, mirror, church, urgent mission, presbyterian, church, online worship, bend, oregon

Featuring:

Rev. Dr. Steven Koski, Rev. Sharon Edwards, Becca Ellis, Brave of Heart, Guests

Transcript

Whitney Higdon: 0:00

You foreign. Welcome to worship at First Presbyterian. We, at First Presbyterian practice a spacious Christianity, which means, no matter where you are in your faith journey, you belong and there is space for you at the table, there is space for your doubts and questions. We believe doubts and questions are a gift that invite us into deeper conversations and a more authentic faith. We believe diversity is a strength. Every story is sacred and everybody matters. We do our best to live the spacious and radical love of Jesus so that all might have a chance to flourish in this world. We are so glad to connect with you in this way. We would also love to worship with you in person if you're ever in the neighborhood on Sunday mornings at 830 or 10am and never hesitate to reach out to us to learn more about us or how we might support You. I hope you enjoy this worship service. Welcome

Unknown: 4:46

Are you in a place where you can hear me? Because I want you to really soak in what I have to say. I come offering transformation. I come full of love. Love and I so deeply want you to experience for yourself what is so often only talked about or imagined, my full presence to all things, my part in your being and your part in my being, I want to clean you up, cut off what no longer serves you, and show you how deeply and truly everything is enjoined to me, what's yours to do is going to sound simplistic, but it's hard. Trust me, I know people tend to get in their own way when it comes to connection. So what I am asking you is to open to show me where it hurts, because right there is where I come in. I am meeting you, soar to soar, wound to wound, to nourish you by the intimacy of my own blood, and guide you into the mystery and miracle of my deep healing way. I want to bring you closer into me. I want you to experience me and my love first hand sourced soul. I want you to know that you are soaked in me. You are within my love everywhere, always, and my love is never exhausted. So share the spirit of it freely. Give without worry or desperation, let love move among you, soul to soul. My heart is set on you. I am here, active and present. I am yours, and you are mine. I will never leave you. So trust, remain, rest assured, Be still and know you are within my love everywhere, always source to soul and my love is never exhausted.

Steven: 7:22

One of my favorite poems is called the avowal by Denise Levertov. It goes like this, as swimmers dare to lie face to the sky and water bears them, as hawks rest upon Air and Air sustains them, so would I learn to attain free fall and float into creator spirit's deep embrace, knowing no effort earns that all surrounding grace, if we only understood that last phrase at a deep, deep level, no effort earns that all surrounding grace, no effort earns God's unbounded and unconditional love. You know, the spiritual path is not about working hard, scrambling, trying to do the right things, believe the right things to earn God's love. The spiritual path is the unfolding discovery that you are loved unconditionally, the unfolding discovery that you are created in the image of God's goodness. You know, the spiritual path is not learning what might be necessary to to achieve being worthy and loved. The spiritual path is unlearning everything that has taught you otherwise, discovering, no effort earns that all surrounding grace, Psalm 46 says, Be still and know that I am God. A more accurate translation of the Hebrew would be, Cease striving. Stop grasping. Stop stop trying so hard. The invitation is to Cease striving, to stop struggling and grasping to earn God's love, and simply rest in the assurance that the love you seek is already yours. The psalmist says, Be still and know now. The Hebrew, translated as know, doesn't mean head knowledge, but heart knowledge, the deep inner knowing. Of being held in God's love. In other words, stop working so hard to prove that you are worthy and loved, and rest in the love closer to you than your own breath. A prayer in Ephesians three expresses this beautifully. I pray that you will be grounded in love and grasp how long and high and wide and deep is the love of Christ, and that you will know the love that surpasses knowledge that you might be filled with all of the fullness of God. There's a wonderful old rabbinic saying that tells us every human being is preceded by a legion of angels announcing make way for here comes the very image of God's goodness. Father, Greg Boyle, who founded Homeboy Industries, the largest gang rehabilitation center in the world, based in Los Angeles, said this. He said, one doesn't become good. We locate our goodness. The gang members I devote my life to loving haven't forgotten their original goodness. They've never been properly introduced. They assume a truth of being damaged, unredeemable, unworthy. They aren't evil. They are just strangers to their own goodness, and our goal is not to give them dignity, but in a relationship of unconditional Christ, like love, be the mirror where they can see their own goodness, resiliency, said, arrives unexpectedly when we consider our own unshakable goodness. Take a breath for a second. Now another one and another one, and imagine that the first, last and best thing that could be said about you is that you are loved and deserving of that love. You are worthy and you are good. Suicide rates are rising dramatically, especially among young people. Nearly half of America reports experiencing depression and anxiety. I can't think of a more urgent mission for the church than reflecting unconditional Christ like love and finding ways to be the mirror where people might might be able to see their own goodness, because once you have once you have a glimpse of your own unshakable goodness, you can't help but embody that goodness in the world. September is mental health awareness and suicide National Suicide Prevention Month. Now, I've been very open about my my own struggles with depression throughout my life. I attempted to take my own life when I was 19. I thank God every single day that I wasn't successful at the time, I couldn't see beyond the horizon of my own despair. I couldn't see my own my own goodness. I couldn't see the world of hope that was on the other side of the mountain of pain I was experiencing, I couldn't see that I would be graced, really, with an incredible life, a beautiful family, and the privilege of having this platform to remind you that you are a child of God, that you are created in the image of God's own goodness. I couldn't see when I was 19 that pain and suffering and darkness do not have the last word God does. God's word is always of a light stronger than the darkness, you know, a beauty beyond the brokenness, and a love from which we can never be separated. So honestly, this is the sermon I wish I would have heard when I was 19, and I pray this sermon might be a mirror to help you see your own goodness. It is so important to talk openly and honestly about mental health and to say the word suicide out loud in church. Now I'm guessing there's a chance you've never heard a sermon preached on suicide, because we don't talk about it, but we need to it impacts every single one of us, directly or indirectly. You know, talking about suicide is so important. How we talk about suicide is equally important. You know, people often use the phrase committing suicide. We commit crimes. To say someone committed suicide can actually be really hurtful. It's better to say died by suicide. We don't talk openly about suicide or or how the pain of life can feel at times so unbearable because there's shame attached to it. You know, it was acceptable. It was acceptable for me to talk about the ruptured disc in my back and how that pain, believe me, was was unbearable. The pain was so bad I couldn't think straight, but I wasn't embarrassed or ashamed. It was actually okay to admit I was in so much pain that I that I was struggling coping. I was encouraged to go to the doctor, encouraged to ask for help. I could actually talk to people about the kind of treatment that I was receiving, and I received all kinds of support. People regularly asked me, and still ask me today, are you okay? How's your back? Right, but somehow it's not okay, and there's shame attached to letting people know that our life hurts, that our life hurts so bad that it's unbearable, and we can't think straight and we just want relief. Admitting we can't cope with emotional pain is shrouded in shame that needs to change. Suicide is tragic on every level, but it is not shameful. It's born of hopelessness that that can't imagine any other way out. You know, it's this, this thick, Pitch Black haze that that prevents you from seeing any light. You know, people say suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and there is truth to that, but those who find themselves in the darkest places. They can't see that from there, when someone takes their own life, when someone dies by suicide, it's a profound, unimaginable tragedy for their loved ones. It's a reason to mourn the loss of a precious, beautiful life, we can be really angry at the senselessness of the loss, but there should never be shame. We do our worst thinking when we're walking in the shadows of despair, where it feels like there's no hope, it's not going to get any better, our thinking can be so irrational. We're convinced taking our own lives would actually be better for those we love, we're not able to see the. Ripples of pain and grief that will go on for years. My goal in talking about suicide, especially in church, is to remove the shame and stigma, to acknowledge there aren't easy answers, but there is help. If you're struggling, you are not alone, and this will not go on forever. You know, I believe what we share most in common is not our strength, but our vulnerability, our tears. Sometimes life hurts in unbearable ways for all of us to help people experience their own goodness. We need to remove any shame. It's impossible to ask for help in an environment of shame. Romans eight says there is nothing. There is nothing in all creation. There is nothing in life or death or death that can ever separate us from the love of God, revealed in Jesus Christ, nothing. What that means is that we are never, ever lost to love, sometimes we are just strangers to that love and strangers to our own goodness. Remember when you meet another person, I think for all of us, there are scars that don't show, there are hidden wounds that aren't healed, there are silent screams that aren't heard, and battles that continue to be fought In the soul, if you yourself are suffering from depression or have a desire to self harm or or have suicidal thoughts, please, Please talk to someone. There is no shame. You matter. Your life matters. You are not alone. For the rest of us, be a soft place to land. For those falling off the edge, ask, are you okay? And wait long enough to actually listen for the answer. Don't force people into your light. Be willing to crawl into the darkness and just sit beside those who are hurting without judgment, without the need to advise, fix or save, just love. Some people, a lot of people, are barely hanging on by a thread. Be that thread, be the mirror that helps them see their own goodness, be the love that helps them experience God's unconditional love. We are all broken, and we are all beautiful, worthy, loved. And good. Take a breath and another one and another one. Remember no effort earns that all surrounding grace. Imagine the first, the last, the best thing that can be said about you is that you are loved and deserving of that love. You are worthy and you are good, amen. You Friends, you are a child of God created in the image of God's own goodness. The first, last, best thing that can be said about you is that you are loved and deserving of that love. You are worthy, you are good. May you remember that no effort earns that all surrounding Grace go in the peace of Christ, and May the love you extend to others bring peace to them.

Whitney Higdon: 28:14

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