Becoming Agents of Hope in the ‘After’, with Becca Ellis.

Becoming Agents of Hope in the ‘After’, with Becca Ellis. Series: Finding Hope in Hard Places A Spacious Christianity, First Presbyterian Church of Bend, Oregon. Scripture: Proverbs 8, James 3:13-17.

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Keywords:

Wisdom, thresholds, turning points, Sophia, hachma, Proverbs, Esther, courage, change, critical yeast, community, relationships, transformation, practices, small acts., presbyterian, church, online worship, bend, oregon

Featuring:

Rev. Dr. Steven Koski, Becca Ellis, Brave of Heart, Guests

Transcript

Unknown: 0:20

Music.

Whitney Higdon: 0:37

Welcome to worship at First Presbyterian we at first, Presbyterian practice a spacious Christianity, which means, no matter where you are in your faith journey, you belong, and there is space for you at the table, there is space for your doubts and questions. We believe doubts and questions are a gift that invite us into deeper conversations and a more authentic faith. We believe diversity is a strength. Every story is sacred, and everybody matters. We do our best to live the spacious and radical love of Jesus so that all might have a chance to flourish in this world. We are so glad to connect with you in this way. We would also love to worship with you in person if you're ever in the neighborhood on Sunday mornings at 830 or 10am and never hesitate to reach out to us to learn more about us or how we might support You. I hope you enjoy this worship service. Welcome you.

Unknown: 1:43

When darkness deepens, the path unsure, the sun is hidden by the stones, I look to heaven and cry to Thee, Oh God. Every joy and tear, every passing let me know your need in life, in death, for eternity. O God be here with me when faith is shaken, when fear surround my feet will stand on solid ground in every season, my song will be oh god me in every breath, every joy, every passing. God, let me know your need in life, in death, for eternity. Oh God, be here with me. Be with me. Here with me, and in that moment we are face to face, I will not need these eyes of faith or ever after. God, I will see that you've always been with me, with me, in every breath, every joy, every passing, let me know You're near in life, in death. O God be me.

Steven: 4:45

Be holy, one source of all life and love We thank you that Your love is all. Is present even when we're not always present to your love. Your love is present in the spaces between friends. Your love is even present in the spaces between enemies. Your love is present in the rubble of villages destroy because of hate. Your love is present with grieving families, innocent children caught in the crossfire of war. Your love is present with those still reeling from the devastation of hurricanes, floods, wildfires. Your love is present in the first responders, relief workers, aid workers, bringing hope where there seems to be none. Your love is present with those living in tents because they have no hope. Your love is present with those in assisted living waiting for a visit or the phone to ring, your love is present with those who are numb with grief. Your love is present with those living with the uncertainty of illness. Your love is present with those living in the relentless shadows of mental illness. Your love is present, and the bedtime stories between parent and child, and even when we fail to recognize the presence of your love, which is nearly every moment you recognize us, you see us. You call us by name. You love us. You love us as we make space to be present to your love. Give us the grace to return even a bit of this love to you in the way we love one another, deep in our awareness of your love, that we might live as the presence of your love in this broken and hurting world. Amen.

Becca Ellis: 7:17

Life has a universal rhythm to it, subtle, unspoken, but ever present. There is a cadence of moments that shape us, dividing time into the befores and the Afters, before the diagnosis, before the loss, before the love, after the child was born, after the apology, after the pandemic, after the executive order, after the moment you never saw coming. We move through life as if it were a single thread. But in truth, it is a weaving a tapestry of thresholds crossed, of selves left behind, and new selves stepping forward, and somewhere in there, a quiet voice emerges, calling out to us, aiding us at every path and turning point. And her name is wisdom. Wisdom is found in learning to see these thresholds, not just as abrupt endings or beginnings, but as invitations, invitations to notice, to grow, to be shaped by what was and what will be today, I want to invite us to sit with this truth, to consider the holiness of change, the grace that meets us at the turning points, and the God who was before, who meets us in the after, and who is with us always. Sophia is a transliteration of the Greek noun meaning wisdom, but more than just the attainment of knowledge and life to make good and sound decisions, Sophia, wisdom represents a living, guiding presence that moves us through life's changes and ruptures, whether good or bad. In Hebrew, the word for wisdom is hachma, referring to God's wisdom. In the Old Testament, Book of Proverbs, we see this word used as wisdom is personified as a woman and CO creator with God. Wisdom is described as having been there all along, even before creation and as the world began, and she is present in our own becoming too wisdom has always been calling out to us. She stands at the crossroads, at the threshold of every before and after asking us to listen in Proverbs eight, she raises her voice. Does not wisdom. Call out, does not understanding. Raise her voice at the highest point along the way, where the paths meet, she takes her stand. As I have been reflecting on this idea of befores and afters, I'm reminded of the story of Esther, which speaks to the power of responding with wisdom, intention and courage when we find ourselves at a pivotal turning point in our lives and. Her before, Esther was an orphan living in exile, then she is suddenly queen to a powerful king, and there is a decree of destruction for her people. She didn't ask for any of this, but here she is the one person who can make a difference. She could have asked the question, Why me? And stopped there passively letting life go on around her. It was a moment of great fear and uncertainty, but in her after Esther rose to the occasion, choosing to act with courage and wisdom, even at the risk of her own life, to save her people. She understood there was something greater than just herself at stake. She listened to wisdom's voice and felt the call for such a time as this. One of the greatest challenges we each face is when we cross those thresholds life presents us with and to stop and notice what after we have found ourselves in and then decide what to do with it. We learn to ask the questions now, what and why? Me with a tone of curiosity rather than despair, which can be hard, because in every before we stand in possibility, in every after, we must kneel down and gather what is lost, what has gained, what has been revealed. Both befores and afters can be better or worse, but they always bring change, and all change, no matter how small is loss in some form or other, the invitation wisdom offers us is both to honor this truth as well as a profound practice of living into the questions, into the uncertainty and trusting that even when we don't know what is to come, there is a calling for us to step into, and God will need us there. So where does that leave us? If every before and after is an invitation, then what is it that we are being called into the deeper understanding of this Sophia wisdom is that she does not merely call us to understanding. She calls us to participation. She is not just an observer at the turning points of our lives. She is an active presence at both the big and quiet moments of our lives, stirring, moving and leading us deeper. And in that leading, there is always a call, a call not just to who we are becoming, but a call to how we choose to move throughout our everyday lives. We each have personal callings we encounter through our life, our work, where we live, our creative pursuits, and these may shift depending on the season of life we are in. But beneath all of these unique callings, there is one that applies to all of us and is made visible through the ways we show up in our communities day by day. It is a quiet calling, a current running just underneath the surface, but builds over time to make true and lasting change. Often, when Afters occur, we are very good at paying attention to the big moments, as Krista Tippett puts it, when we think about how change happens in this society, and this is natural, we tell the story of those moments when Critical Mass arises, bodies on the street, but durable change is often brewing in much less visible yet powerful ways before we ever see it on the surface. I love the way John Paul Lederach, a global leader in conflict resolution and peace building, describes this. He says that if we want to see change in our world, we must become what he calls critical yeast. When you make a loaf of bread, the dough can't rise without yeast. The critical work is quietly happening beneath the surface as different elements are mixed together and begin to interact and release something new that wasn't there before letter acts observation and work emphasizes how change happens long before the movement reaches the streets. Critical yeast is when small groups of people in unlikely combinations form a new quality of relationship. Now to me, that sounds a lot like church. One of the beautiful things about a church community is how we encounter individuals we wouldn't have met in our natural, everyday circles. We actually live our lives fairly segregated. When you think about it, our kids and youth spend their days divided into spaces with their direct peers. On the other side, we have assisted living and retirement communities where younger people don't tend to just walk in and build relationships. We often have friends who are the same age and in a similar life phase as we are. And there's nothing inherently wrong with any of that, but church is a place where all are welcome. The commonality being that we are seeking to be a part of something bigger than just ourselves, to find meaning and purpose. Here, at first pres, we strive to embody this spacious way of doing community together, where we embrace our differences and approach them with curiosity and our lives are so much richer for it. It is a new. Quality of relationship that we find here, one that is counter cultural, in that when we hear something that might not align perfectly with our own perspective, instead of running the other way or putting an immediate guard up, we are invited to lean in with curiosity and love and see what there is for us to learn. There is challenge involved as we navigate community in this way, but that challenge expands our capacity for love and understanding, which is clearly something our world needs. Going back to this idea of critical yeast, this term captures the slow, unseen work of transformation. It's quiet, it's behind the scenes, it's faithful and steady, and it's where the real magic happens. Letteric goes on to say that it is these yeasty individuals, the ones willing to engage across division, to nurture relationships, to show up again and again, who remain after the upheavals. They are the ones and the Afters picking up the pieces and asking what now and turning it into something durable and whole. In the New Testament book of James, we are offered a vision of two kinds of wisdom, one that is rooted in God's way of being, and another that is driven by self interest beyond just abstract thoughts. These ways of wisdom shape how we relate to others and how we find our purpose. We read who is wise and understanding among you. Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come from God, but is earthly and spiritual. But the wisdom that comes from God is first of all, pure, then peace, loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. There is a wisdom that seeks to serve itself. It appears to have all the answers to be strategic and cunning, but ultimately drives us to an unsatisfied and hollow existence. It tells us to acquire and keep more for ourselves, to find our worth in what we have and how we measure against others. Living this way leads us to only one after, where we look back and wonder why we wasted so much time on the things that matter the least in this short life. Then there is God's wisdom, one rooted in mercy and justice, in deep consideration for others, in peacemaking, and one that tells a more generative narrative for our times. It is a quiet wisdom that shows up in unlikely places, with the ability to rebuild what is broken, to bring wholeness where there has been division, to transform not just individual lives, but entire communities. The question for us is not just which wisdom we admire, but rather, what wisdom do we live by, and what about when it gets hard? There are a lot of voices calling out for our attention in this world, it's easy to get lost and overwhelmed, and it all unlike Steven shared last week, for our circuits to get overloaded, following the voice of wisdom we know can lead us to the greatest transformation isn't necessarily easy. I think it's also important to say that this wisdom doesn't tell us to never pay attention to ourselves either. So it's it's actually in paying attention to our own well being that we are able to give our ourselves and the way that God's wisdom calls us toward. So how do we find it? What practices can we engage in that help us follow the voice of wisdom that leads to true and lasting change? Because in order to see the change we long to witness on a larger scale, we must first start with our own individual transformation. I want to offer three simple but transformative practices you can engage in. The first is to practice the pause. And this one I have found truly takes practice. We live in a fast paced world that is always begging us for a quick reaction, that thrives on scarcity, that tells us there isn't enough time, but true wisdom invites us into deeper discernment. Brene Brown writes, between stimulus and response, there is a space, and that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom, even if it is just taking a deep breath anywhere that we can practice and invite a pause will allow us to exhale a more thoughtful, grounded and considerate response, rather than an impulsive reaction. I often think about something my therapist said to me once about the words we speak. She used the analogy of a toothpaste tube. You can easily and rapidly squeeze out all the toothpaste all over the counter, but it's impossible to get it back into the tube later, while we can make amends and attempt to repair hasty words once spoke. They can't be taken back or unheard. The next practice is to make unlikely connections. John Paul letter X, idea of critical yeast, reminds us that real transformation takes place in relationships, especially in the ones we wouldn't naturally seek out. True wisdom calls us to engage with people outside of our usual circles, Jesus calls us to this also especially to those on the margins of society. Imagine if we held a posture of seeing those who are different from us as bearers of divine insight. Making these unlikely connections could be as simple as reaching out to someone with a different perspective, or perhaps inviting someone from a younger or older generation to get a cup of coffee and learn the story of their life. It can even look like practicing empathy in the midst of conflict and sitting with someone in their pain and not rushing to fix it. Who can you intentionally make a connection with this week that you wouldn't normally? And the third practice is to be faithful and small acts of goodness. I often say that when things feel too big, start small, and it turns out that the big things only come about because of the small, everyday choices we make. True wisdom reminds us that each of us consistently showing up with love is what our world needs most. It is showing up with generosity even when it feels inconvenient. It is simply looking at someone on a trail or as you walk through your neighborhood and offering a friendly nod and Hello. It is stepping a little slower, less rushed throughout your day so you notice the opportunities to plant seeds of goodness and perhaps even find those unlikely connections you weren't expecting. It is being mindful of every interaction as a chance to make the world a little more beautiful and less harsh. It is these small gestures of goodness and love that act as the yeast making the whole loaf rise. These practices pausing making unlikely connections and faithfully offering acts of goodness in our world, are just a few ways of anchoring ourselves to the way of wisdom. This is wisdom's call to us. It isn't about being able to make sense of every after we find ourselves in it isn't about being perfect or remaining stoic in the face of very real grief and loss. It isn't about certainty or knowing what is coming next, but rather to be present to what is breaking and what is being made new, and to trust that small things really do matter. We don't have all the answers to live wisely. Rather, we just have to be willing to listen to love, to do the next right thing in front of us, and to trust that even the smallest acts of goodness can shape a new and vibrant future.

Unknown: 22:51

Just be on my side something that I cannot see. I've been circling around a thought that's been circling around me like the vapor of a song that is just out of earshot. I thought I knew the question, but I guess not. There it is just below surface of things, every little bit of me, at this every little bit of me, I swam against the tide. I tripped on my own pride, so I'll try again today to get out of my own way. The face was always in the stone, said Michelangelo, you just have to chip and clean to see what's already there? There it is just below the surface. Oh, every little bit of it. There it is in the apple of every new notion. There it is. Is in the sky was broken in the branches and the curious promise name it a time. Time, it's true, although it's hard, the shadow glides over the ridge, and one fast beating heart dries with all its might to live, and we sense but can't describe from The corner of our eye something nameless and abiding and so we keep transcribing there It is just below the surface. I drink it every little bit Every little bit of me belittle me. May you

Becca Ellis: 27:10

stand at the crossroads of your life where the before meets the after, and pause so you may hear the whisper of wisdom. May you find her not only in the grand moments of change, but in the small, unnoticed spaces where transformation takes root, when the road before you is unclear, may you have the courage to pause and remember Wisdom does not rush and neither must you when the world calls for division, may you choose unlikely connections, may you see the image of God and those you least expect. And may Your relationships be the slow and steady work of healing when the weight of the world feels too much, when things feel too big, may you remember that small things matter, that the rising of the loaf depends on that critical yeast, on those who quietly, faithfully show up in love again and again. May you be part of that critical yeast, an agent of renewal, a bearer of peace, a quiet force for good and a world longing to be made whole. And when you find yourself in a new after, one you never saw coming, may you know that you are not alone, for God, who was with you in the before, is with you always. Amen.

Whitney Higdon: 28:45

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Unknown: 29:42

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